There is a question I get asked quite frequently and everything
else that follows this question: “When are you getting married?”
I’ll be the first to tell you that marriage is not in my
deck of cards, currently. If I’m being honest, marriage is never on my mind,
but apparently, it’s on everybody’s. My getting married, that is. People feel
the need to tell me I need to get married and proceed to state that I won’t get
anything from my boyfriend. I’m not in my relationship because I want his money,
his car or any of his assets. Truthfully, I don’t want any of it. I’m with
boyfriend because I love him and what we have works for us.
I have even had my father tell me that to feel joy, I need
to be married. He’s been married three times and I can’t trust someone who has
been married more than once on this subject. Clearly, he wasn’t happy the first
two times, I guess third times a charm. Maybe not.
My mother, bless her heart, when I asked if it bothered her that
I was unmarried, said it didn’t and that my happiness was all that matter. She then
gave me the advice to get married for legal purposes. I’m not going to lie, but
I would have been happy without the advice. Ignorance is bliss after all.
We are happy. Is that not enough? Or… do I have to be rude
and say, “Mind your business?” because, my relationship really isn’t any of
your business. How we choose to live our lives is our business. How we choose
to continue our relationship is our business.
Should I shuffle my deck of cards in the future and marriage
is flipped right-side up, then so be it. It will be our choice. Like I always
say, “If it happens, it happens.”
With all said, please stop asking. Please stop pressing the
question. It’s not only exhausting, but frustrating. I don’t have to explain myself
and neither does boyfriend.
